Wednesday, 14 September 2016

Pep Talk

Today I am an abundance of emotions. 

I am scared of how fast the summer has passed and that the reminder on my phone is now only three days away. I'm curious to see what my dorm room looks like and what sort of music my soon to be flatmates are in to. However, at this very moment in time I'm anxious. I am anxious because today is my last Wednesday at home before I start university and despite how unbelievably excited I am for this new chapter in my life to start my nerves have started to kick in. What am I nervous about? Being nervous.

When I think about moving away from home, being in a new city with new people, the thought doesn't scare me. I'm guessing it's more adrenaline than actual anxiety. Y'know, just your average 'I'm moving away from home for the first time' nerves. Regardless of this, I have a tendency to overthink many things including being nervous. When this happens I shake, my speech stutters, I shy away and to top it off avoid any possible interaction or activity that could amplify this feeling.

By all means I want to avoid this and I know I'm not the only one. Therefore for todays blog post I thought I would share a few of my favourite coping mechanisms to help overcome being shy and enjoy my first term at university.

Make a Habit of Speaking To Everyone
I know at first this sounds daunting (it sounded horrific to me) but from first hand experience this has really paid off. Start of small. When you first arrive on campus, remember to smile. When you pass someone on the stairs say hello or good morning. Slowly but surely start to increase the length and topics in conversations and soon enough you will find at least that one person (if not persons) you'll be chatting up a storm with.

Be Persistent
The more you practise the better you will get at it. 

Make sure to engage with everyone you meet, even if it means saying yes to a few things that you might not normally do. Attend fresher events, go on a pub-crawl, and maybe even join a society or a membership to the gym. You will find it's a great way to meet new people and you might end up really enjoying yourself!

The Importance of Body Language
Try not to shy away when making conversation with new people. Instead, by using more open gestures such as smiling and keeping a positive eye contact (the trick is to look long enough to notice their eye colour) you will automatically come across as a much more confident, lively person to be around. Also is it weird that The Little Mermaid came to mind?

Say Yes
Alongside meeting new people and building lifelong friendships, saying yes to new things (even if it is a little awkward and puts you out of your comfort zone at first) can lead to so many new opportunities. You could be introduced to a new area of interest or perhaps even discover a particular skill you had never foreseen. Overall this newfound confidence of saying yes and feeling good will give you more belief in your abilities and self worth.

Good Luck to everyone moving to university this weekend! I hope you all really enjoy your first year and don't get alcohol poisoning at freshers :)


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